Good Monday Morning!
Excited to CHECK IN with you:
How was you first week following the THRIVE Conference?
NOTE: It’s important to differentiate between, ‘How did things go?’ (circumstances) and ‘How did you choose to BE while experiencing those circumstances’ (thrive-ability).
THRIVE-ABILITY: the ability to thrive regardless of the present moment’s trials or circumstances.
Viktor Frankl was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor.
He witnessed his fellow Holocaust prisoners who were starving, share their limited amount of food with others.
Here is what he concluded from that experience:
‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’
So let’s say you are driving down the road and someone cuts you off and jumps in front of you (stimulus).
Instead of responding immediately by screaming or thinking unkind reactive words (response), you can CHOOSE something different; you can choose to thrive.
There are many thriving options in that situation.
One that my wife uses (and now myself and my two sons have adopted) is coming up with the conclusion that ‘they must be on their way to the hospital, his wife is having a baby!’
May sound silly, but it really works- it helps keep our thrive alive!
Take a look at the following passage:
2 Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. 3 Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed.  5 One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. 6 When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”
7 “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”
8 Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” 9 At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.
Jesus asked this invalid a very direct question, “Do you want to get well?”
What did he get in response?
Notice that he did not ask him, “Why are you not well?”
The invalid was stuck in the ‘why’ which was killing his ‘want’.
It is so much easier to cling to the story of our past than it is to take action in the present.
Stimulus: Questions received to why he was not healed
Response: I have not one to help me (it’s their fault) – blame.
Choice: Jesus brought the invalid into the NOW, away from the story he had been telling himself. You can get up NOW. You can pick up your mat NOW!
Can I ask you a question?
Do you want to THRIVE?
Not, ‘Why aren’t you thriving?’, but, do you WANT to Thrive???
If you want to Thrive, it starts with the choice you make right now towards your stimulus.
How will you respond?
Application / Practical’s:
- The areas toughest for me to thrive in are _________, __________, __________.
- The story(s) that I can tell myself that keeps me from thriving in those areas are ____________.
- I get tempted to blame ____________ for my lack of thriving.
- The ‘mat’ in this story represents ___________ in my life. Getting up & picking it up, would mean me letting go of ______________ and taking responsibility for my own thrive.
- I will choose to thrive even when __________ is going on or happening in my life!
- My THRIVE-ABILITY is on the rise, because when tough situations and circumstances come up, I will _____________ instead of __________.
- My THRIVE partner for this month will be _______________.